There’s a fascinating observation I’ve made wherein men such as John Gustav Wrathall, who very early on in their lives have least obeyed and followed LDS leaders are the ones most interested in reconciling their religion and homosexuality.
John is married to a man and I don’t believe he has never done the temple marriage and kids thing. Same with that apostle’s brother Tom Christofferson…been with a man since a young adult and so has suffered minimal collateral damage compared to someone who obeyed LDS policy and doctrine of the time by trying to ignore it or change. The obedient ones are the ones now divorced and ridiculed by family, church and friends.
It tells me that it pays to follow your internal compass as early as possible…and you’ll even end up with warmer feelings towards the church you had to disregard to get there.