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As you may have already heard, TLC is airing a ‘My Husband’s Not Gay’ special in January.

On January 11 at 10 p.m. ET/PT, TLC will premiere a one-hour special following some Mormons who say are living have an alternative to an alternative lifestyle. They are men who are happily married and attracted to their wives, but they are also attracted to other men. They refer to it as Same Sex Attraction… not gay.

My Husband is not gay

What you may not know is that these men are all involved with North Star’s Voices of Hope project and you can get a video preview of the cast of ‘My Husband’s Not Gay’ there.

Jeff and Tanya Bennion

Jeff and Tanya Bennion



Curtis and Tera Brown


Preston and Megan Dahlgren

I’d be more disgusted if they weren’t so darned cute.

If nothing else, please share with others how demoralizing and dismissive this is of those women.

Nobody with daughters wants this for their girls.

Try not to focus on how childish, idiotic and brainwashed (and adorable) the men appear, but focus on how the women are being duped and manipulated. Don’t get me wrong, nobody has forced them into the life they are leading. They have been “drugged” to believe this is their best option.

As I’ve said before

Religion is a drug. Like any drug, it will help you escape from reality. It will take away some of the perceived “sting” of existence. It will take the burdens of thought off your shoulders. It will make you feel like you can fly from the ledge, without wings… It will purport to solve life’s most serious problems. The ironic catch is that the very “sting” and the very “problems” religion can solve are merely fabricated “problems” created by the religion itself.

So, why do these men and women stay in relationships like this?

“People don’t want their lives fixed. Nobody wants their problems solved. Their dramas. Their distractions. Their stories resolved. Their messes cleaned up. Because what would they have left? Just the big scary unknown.”  Chuck Palahniuk (American freelance Journalist, Satirist and Novelist. b.1961)

As a father of 3 beautiful girls, I hope that all the little gay boys out there right now will feel enough acceptance and courage to come out before adulthood and to seek out other men rather than my daughters. THAT’s how we fix this problem. We make it safe and acceptable to be who you are.

If you are a gay Mormon married to a straight women, it’s not the gay part that’s the problem.

See Also:

North Star

Voices of Dope

Helping Latter-day Saint Families with LGBT Children

Women Who Marry Gay Men

MLK “Don’t Let Anyone Take Your Manhood”

Mormon Sand Gays

I Should Have Known I Was Gay When

You Could Have Known I Was Gay Because…